A Tale of Two Babies and Their Mommies: How babies learn how to handle fear
Clinical Goals: A Tale of Two Babies
1. To give insight into the child’s early experiences
2. To introduce the concept of an individual having “parts”
3. To demonstrate how experiences are integrated into the self
4. To reduce the child’s shame by identifying how the child learned to need control the environment
5. To provide an experience of why/how the child did not develop trust in care giving adult
6. To reduce blaming birth parents, as they have “hurts” that prevent consistent positive care giving
7. To give understanding of the child’s view of being moved from one home to another
8. To help the new family understand their child’s behaviors
9. To demonstrate internalizing the parent
10. To develop empathy for this child
11. To help other children in the home reflect on their early relationships
12. To help parents attune to their child’s emotional states and triggers
13. To enforce the need for help from care givers and therapist
14. To spur discussion about a child’s past
15. To give hope for the future
Excerpt from: A Tale of Two Babies
A Tale of Two Babies and Their Mommies: How babies learn to handle fear
Faye L. Hall Jeff L. Merkert
One bright and sunny morning, a tiny baby was born. The loving mommy looked into her baby’s eyes and smiled, and promised to take care of her every need.
As all babies, this tiny child learned about herself from her mommy’s eyes, loving smiles, and tender touch, each coming straight from mommy’s heart. This mommy knew she could take good care of her baby and keep her safe from others who may hurt her. This mommy could see a bright future for herself and her baby.
Everyday, this tiny baby needed mommy’s love and care. With fright from noises-the baby feared danger.
Each time her mommy came, mommy shared the fear and helped the fear go away. This tiny child learned from her mommy’s eyes, loving smiles, and tender touch that she was precious, mommy could be trusted, and she was safe.
One bright and sunny morning, a tiny baby was born. The mommy looked into her baby’s eyes and promised to take care of her every need.
As all babies, this tiny child learned about herself through her mommy’s eyes and touch, each coming straight from the heart. But, this mommy’s heart was hurt. Sometimes, she could not take good care of her baby. Sometimes, she did not stop others from hurting her baby. This mommy could not see a bright future for herself or her baby.
Everyday, this tiny baby needed mommy’s love and care.
With fright from noises, the baby feared danger.
This tiny child learned from her mommy’s hurt heart. Mommy did not always come to help baby. At times, mommy’s hurt heart kept her from being gentle with baby. Baby became more afraid-even afraid of mommy. Sometimes, strangers came and made baby more afraid. Baby’s fear seemed to grow and grow.