Foster and adoptive parents begin the process with abundant hope; hope for improving a child’s future, hope to make changes in the world, hope in building a parent/child relationship, hope to have a child reciprocate love… Many of these parents are or have successfully parented before, why should this child be any different? They willing proceed even when warned the child may “have problems.” They remain hopeful.
Sally and Andy reviewed their soon to be pre-adoptive daughter’s history. This loving couple was informed there were 53 disruptive behaviors recorded in the report. They agreed she may have some issues but they were ready. As the behaviors erupted, their hopefulness equally decreased.
Helping families “be ready” requires the Trauma Lens Paradigm Shift: psycho-education in trauma, child development, attachment, boundaries, emotional awareness and communication and a vulnerability to form a relationship with a child who does not reciprocate.
Use this website to encourage hopefulness by readying parents to being the healing process.