Professionals in the foster and adoptive world desire to see the children they work with not just live with but thrive in their new families. They know the last thing this child needs is another change in placement. They know the heart break, the depression, the violence possible in the child and in the homes. They also know the joy, care, and comfort in the healing homes-and they want this for all their families. They have seen that hope is tangible and accessible in the right home-with the prepared parent-the flexible parent-the ones who can see this child differently.
Professionals can help parents be the change agent by providing resources, training, and encouragement. They can stand by the parent during the struggles, be their cheerleader as they travel through the Trauma Lens Paradigm Shift, and empathize with the defeats. Use the resource list to help families look outside of their “normal” parenting styles. Attend trainings with the parents so that everyone with be on the same page. Most of all, ALWAYS project these parents are the best parents the child could have, these parents can be TRUSTED. If you cannot verbally and non-verbally state these qualities, the child should not be in this home. Healing occurs when the child has a Safe Haven and Secure Base.